Is it natural for human beings to be in monogamous relationships? That’s the question that Lea and Donovan tackle in this episode. Donovan states that he has always believed that the animal side of human nature was to NOT have monogamous relationships, that mankind, as animals, have a built-in desire or need to propagate the species – and what better way to ensure that it happens than for the male gender to screw as many females as he possibly can to spread his seed.
Lea doesn’t necessarily disagree with the theory, but she feels it’s much more nuanced than that and even calls back to a time long ago when it was thought that societies were lead by women instead of men. Of course Donovan must always have proof!
Donovan brings to the table a book by psychologist and zoologist David P. Barash and psychiatrist Judith Eve Lipton entitled, “The Myth of Monogamy” (note this is an Amazon Affiliate link). In the book, research was conducted that demonstrated that many animals, especially mammals (humans, of course, are mammals) are predisposed to have polygamous relationships and not monogamous ones. So, why is the standard to have monogamous relationships today? The research points to the possible desire for raising children in a safe environment.
As it turns out, monogamy can be broken down into 3 categories: Sexual monogamy, Social monogamy and Genetic monogamy. Listen to the episode to discover what the differences in these categories are.
The bottom line: Monogamy is, apparently, a lot of hard work – one at which many humans seem to fail. But, even though humans aren’t designed for monogamous relationships, it is something that many strive to have…if they can work hard enough for it.
NOTE: Adult themes, language and situations.
Intro: Cockpit by Silent Partner
Outro: It’s All Happening by Huma-Huma